Thursday, 25 August 2016

Sponsored dress from Lolita Wardrobe

Hello! This week's post is a new one (well, I've done unboxings before BUT), it is sponsored! 

(Btw here's the video version if you prefer videos over text)

The owner of Lolitawardrobe.com, Angela Cheung, sent me a message on Youtube. whether I would be interested in receiving a free dress in exchange for a review. I took a quick look at their site, and agreed! They carry over twenty indie brands from Taobao, and ship worldwide. Sites like these are a heaven sent for a person like me (you've seen me use re-sellers before) because I hate dealing with shopping services. Lolita Wardrobe is easy to use, and I recommend them based on my experience ^^ More on that below, here is the dress!





Magic Tea Party
Cross and Censer (fish bones corset JSK)

The dress is gorgeous <3 Fabric is nice thick cotton (with cotton lining, super warm winter dress) and the print is so pretty! Even the base fabric has intricate designs, and the hem print is really clear and crisp.



The lace is really beautiful and good quality, it's at the hem and neckline.


The bodice also had delicate rose lace at the seams.
So many details <3


The dress is fully lined, here you can see the tags. I chose XL even though I technically fit the L, because I'm a bit paranoid... You may have heard me complaining about gaining a bit of weight (which I'm otherwise cool with, BUT) thus crowing out of my couple non-shirred pieces... So I was worried that this might not fit if I get the large, and since it has a corset, I went ahead and got the bigger one. It's slightly roomy but perfect with the belt, so success!


The dress automatically comes with the corset belt, detachable rose bow and a lace collar. All are good quality, the corset has plastic bones so it's bendy but sturdy (and the fabric itself is pretty thick, so the belt is quite heavy duty). You can actually see me wear the choker / collar in my hair in the first photo :D I just tied at my neck and voilá! Small and cute.


Lolita Wardrobe was kind to also give me this accessory hat from the same line ^^ If you like the print, the dress comes in two colourways (purply pink and this blue) and the Cross and Censer series actually have three different JSK's, an OP and accompanying hat and blouse.

Communication with Angela was really fast (I always got an answer within hours), very friendly and informative. They allowed me choose my own dress freely, and it was really easy since I have lots of Taobao dream dresses <3 I originally chose this Surfcase Spell OP that I've had my eye on for a while, but when they said it takes 45 work days to make (which is clearly stated in the site, I was just too exited to notice) and I chose something else. What can I say, I hate waiting for expensive items...

Then I took a different approach; what if I chose a dress I though looked really pretty but what I might not buy myself? Since this is a rare free dress, I decided to go ham. I had ten candidates and my partner helped me trim them down to three: 



 I e-mailed them with these three links (because I couldn't decide) and tada, I got the Cross and Censer JSK!

The communication was very fast, smooth and friendly, the site is easy to use and they have a lot of into and photos. I will  be buying from them myself (I want more ouji items and I've eyed this Infanta vest for a long time, it shall be mine~) so it's safe to say that I recommend them ^^

Thank you for reading! Now that I have time in my hands, you can expect tutorials in the near future~

Wednesday, 17 August 2016

What is lolita?

A question we get time and time again: what is lolita? I (finally) made a video talking about what lolita is, and also what it is not. Some rules bend but this is a very generalized video, as these tend to be. :) Short point list!

Lolita fashion is:
- A FASHION. Use the wrd when looking for info and items, it'll save you a ton of trouble an K18 links.
- Started in Japan, but has spread across the globe
- Has it's roots in Victorian fashion as well as rococo
- Most iconic is the silhouette: skirts sit at the natural waist and poof out with petticoat(s)
(- A cute oufit without a petticoat isn't lolita)
- All about modesty! Cover you shoulders, cleavage (seriously, you'll never see boobs in lolita), skirts are close to knee-length and you cover your legs with tights or socks

Three main substyles of lolita:
- Gothic, where it all started from. Morose, elegant (almost vampiric) feel, heavy fabrics, dark colours, gothic prints. Petti is usually A-line but a cupcake shape is not uncommon
- Sweet. Cheerful, cute, usually quite OTT (over the top = extravagant) feel, pastel or bright colours, cute prints and lots of lace. Fullest cupcake pettis in the lolita world
- Classic. This is the most mature, elegant and timeless. Subtle prints, muted colors, less accessories. Pettis are usually A-line and skirts can be tea length or mid-calf.
- Looots of substyles: pirate, Alice, military, sailor, punk, shiro, kuro, guro, hime etc etc. I could make an entire post about substyles.
- You don't have to choose just one substyle, mix and match however you want! My wardrobe is mostly gothic but I have been adding classic pieces to it, and some of my dresses are between gothic and classic. Try what looks nice, don't mind the labels. :)

Lolita fashion is not:
- About the fucking book  :'D or the movie. Just no.
- Sexy or a fetish. It is, like we just discussed, the exact opposite: modest.
- Cosplay. There are lolita characters you can cosplay, but it's a cosplay of that character, not the fashion. You can wear lolita to conventions (I have), but it doesn't make lolita any more cosplay than wearing jeans and a t-shirt to a con.
- Maids. Two completely separate things.

Lolita isn't strictly to just girls either! There is a sister fashion (or substyle, categorize how you want) called kodona and ouji. They wear the same blouses and accessories, but in stead of wearing a skirt, you wear pants! The aim is to look princely or cute, a fitting counterpart to lolita. This style is also worn by girls (me included).

Lolita can also be worn by males. The term "brolita" (bro + lolita) is ften used, but I think that everyone wearing lolita is just a lolita, but it does make searhing information and tips easier. Brolitas are very well accepted within lolita fashion, though they sadly face some confusion and maybe even harassment from others. I don't want to touch that too much.

So, all in all, that is a very brief summary :D I have a bunch of beginner videos linked on this video (and as playlists on my channel) so I won't link them all here, you can check them on Youtube if you're interested. ^^

I want to make more text posts again, sorry for the silence! <3

Friday, 12 August 2016

Summer lookbook

It's been a while since I've done a proper text post, and I'll talk about that later. For now, here are some outfit shots of my recent coords! I made a video lookbook, but here are quick photos. :)



hair accessory: CiCi works
blouse: Dear Celine
skirt: Bodyline
bag: thrifted
tights: h&m
shoes: thrifted

(aaand this is why I hate taking timed photos; I can't see if it's focused or not in the small screen. Oh well.)
hair accessories: DIY & offbrand
blouse: KappAhl
skirt: Knight's night
bag: H&M
tights: offbrand
shoes: ebay


Dress: Sleipnir JSK <3
blouse: offbrand
tights: offbrand
shoes: DinSko

ft. kitty

It was a super hot day -__-
hat: vintage+ DIY
dress: Chérie Cerise
blouse: Infanta
tights: taobao
shoes: ebay
dress: Meta Swan lake OP
I really loves this dress and ought to wear it more often <3

Monday, 20 June 2016

Hellocon video

Here's a compiled video I took at Hellocon, again I'll write a proper post about it but if you want to see what was going on, have a look. :)

Sunday, 19 June 2016

Tea party video

I'll again write a proper thingy about the tea party, but if anyone's interested, here's a video I took. 

Saturday, 18 June 2016

BTSSB & AatP fashion show

Aaand here's the Baby fashion show.



Hellocon designer fashion show

Hi, Hellocon was fun and I'll write about it in a bit but I'm dying right now so in the mean time, here's a link to the designer fashion show! It was really pretty and I've never heard some of these brands before, but Mossbadger is Definitely on my radar with that gorgeous black and white dress! <3 Anyway, enjoy the show ~


PS my camera doesn't have automatic focus but I did the best I could ^^

Thursday, 2 June 2016

International lolita day

As you may know, IDL is coming up again and I thought I would make a short video and explain a bit what and when it is since it' this Saturday! The first Daturday of June and first Saturday of December are usually celebrated with meetups, either with your local community or in some places they hold huge meets where smaller comms gather. It can be at a cafe, restaurant, museum; though tea parties are most popular. I like how most lolitas put extra effort on IDL, maybe by wearing their newest or most cherished items. Our comm on the other hand will have a quite relaxed meet at my house, I'll go and pick them up (since public transport won't come to our neck of the woods), and we'll eat delicious food and chill. No big deal. But it's still fun to celebrate IDL and I love the fact that it's getting bigger and more known every year all around the world. <3

Wednesday, 11 May 2016

Confidence and dealing with attention

I get asked about how to keep up self confidence while getting odd looks and mean comments while wearing lolita and other alternative fashion. The sad reality is that when we decide to wear something that makes us stand out from the crowd, people notice us. That's how it works. It can be hard to deal with attention (especially in the beginning), but I share some tips and experiences in this week's video. Here are some of them:

- Try to distract yourself from the attention you're getting. Take friends with you, even if they're wearing "normal" things they'll still help you have fun by planning where to go next etc. (Though if they're eye catching too, they divide the attention between all of you).
- If you're alone, try talking on the pone or listening to music or podcasts. Keep yourself occupied, especially if you're just sitting on the bus or waiting.
- Try to take quizzical looks as a good thing. The person looking at you probably haven't seen something like you before, and is just admiring your looks and bravery! They just can't communicate it well. Not all looks are evil / condescending glares.
- Try to ignore mean comments and try not to shoot back. They're probably just having a bad day, so the vehemence they're showing is not directed you but to something else they can't project it to. 
- It gets better with time and experience.

Though there is no magic trick to make it all perfect, it takes practice. And patience. And ability to ignore the trolls and concentrate on the positive (because there is a lot of positive attention too). So let's just keep at it! <3

Wednesday, 27 April 2016

DIY lace accessory

Help me come up with a sane name for this thing. Rosette? I don't know, it's a thingy for now :D


So yeah this week's video is about making this accessory, you can either attach an alligator clip to it and make it a hair accessory or you can pin it to your dress, bag or beret, or anything else really. These are very simple and versatile, and even though it's not a stand out piece, I think it's nice to have ^^ Here's a text and photo tutorial since they have been requested, I hope you can catch the key points of the tutorial, I know I'm not very good at these yet :'D


You will need:
- Twi different widths of your ribbon of choice. I have cotton lace but you can use any lace or grosgrain or satin ribbon. 
- Decorations. I have pearl beads but you can use pretty much anything really, a small fake flower would look really pretty too.
- Clip(s?) of your choice
- Needle, thread, scissors


Cut three (same length) strips of the wider lace. Fold the edges to the middle and sew them securely on to the middle.


Turn them into bows :) Make sure to really secure them with lots of tiny stitches and wrap the thread around the middle few times too. Bows are really easy to make but hard to describe, but I show it in the video if you're new to making bows. ^^


Time to unite. First sew two bows together from the middle, then add the third one in there too.


Wrap the narrower lace twice around the center to make it look pretty. Sew the lace on firmly. Then take the top bow and sew the edges to the middle, this way it stays more open and makes the accessory more round. Repeat to the bottom bow as well. Again, shown better in the video.


Lay out your decorations and decide where to put what...


And sew them on! I went with pearls and made two long ribbons out if the narrower lace. I just secured it to the back of the accessory. All you need now is to secure it with the clip of your choice and you're good to go! Again, really simple and fast. The hand sewing can be a bit tiresome but it'll look nice in the end, I promise.